Thinking back.

Hiya!

I've been thinking about a few of my recent posts. (Clicky Clicky) And it made me think about death, what would happen if my luck runs out during a mad dash and I'm thrown under a 8 wheeler. Who would look after TheJess or the smalls, especially in the position of carer to TheJess it Irks me somewhat.

I talked with the family and they agreed it could be an idea to go for life insurance. This is where it gets tricky for me as I know how to insure the bike, but myself? It's a confusing position to be in if you've not done it before. However I stumbled upon a company called Beagle Street, who have tried to make it easier to work out what you would need from life insurance with the Life Insurance Calculator.

What impressed me is if you put the figures in correctly, it gives you a comprehensive list of how much cover you could get before having to pass over personal information, even providing a link to show how they calculate it from the data you put in. Once you are happy request a quote. It's that simple.

If you want see what I'm talking about drop have a look here

 http://www.beaglestreet.com/life-insurance-calculator/

Tell me what you think if you try it.
Paul.

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Meme: Who would you have a one-to-one with?

Hi all.

Today is a blog linkup from the more emotional side of life. Inspired by the 18th anniversary of my mother losing her fight with cancer. Yes I do go on about it a lot but this year it hit me on the night before i wrote this.

I was stuck on things to say. but as asking friends what they think I had an idea. It's based on old phone adverts "who would you have a one-2-one with?" and it worked well for many here.

So I ask you all If you could have a one to one with one person in your life, you'll have 12 hours with them, then they have to go back to heaven/hell or even drifting away from your friendship again. I'm happy as long as your happy to talk about it.

Paul

Let's begin.

I'll spend my one to one with Mum. Yes. I'm a soppy fucker.

It would begin with taking the kids to school so the girls could show off their awesome nan! and while walking to the school they could talk in person, not just in spirit (she comes and sees the three kids a lot) and play about before school.

On dispatching of the kids I would take her to town, sit and talk, tell her more about TheJess and how we met and all the gossip before doing whatever she wants to while chatting and bonding some more along the way.
Eventually the day would pass and We'd go and pick the kids up so they could meet his awesome nan too.
At home I would show her the weird things I do on the internet, including the sweary stuff. I could do with a mothers telling off. That silly way to show they care would be fab!
Knowing time is running out I would cook a perfect meal of whatever she wanted and do what we should be doing. It would be manic but I hope I've done her proud for the day!
Sadly I know it'll be time to go, so. We hug kiss. Plead for a phone number or email to heaven and say my goodbyes wave her off and have another cry!

Well. That's my story. Tell me yours!

Talking to kids about death.

Credit - Me! 

I was asked how I would approach talking about the death of a loved one, family member, friend or school friend to my children?

Depending on the situation I would try to do it in a way I would understand. Which made me think about how my mum told me she was dying of cancer.

I would happily explain it the way it was explained to me when younger. My mother sat me down, and explained that she was really ill and there was no way to win the fight against it. She explained the cancer in a child friendly way and how  everything would be ok, even if she was not there by our side in body she would be there in spirit. She also explained it would be sad but it would get easier.

If a friend of the kids passed away tonight, I would sit them down and explain to them the situation, if ill. Explain how they could not fight it any more, in a similar way mum explained to me. But if an accident or something they won't understand I would have to be creative, not in a way to lie to them, but to avert the fact their was an accident, in case it was gory or worse. But the truth would come out with minor censorship to protect them if it needed it

When it comes to older children (13) Tell them the truth. It's a lot easier. Ask them if they want to attend the funeral as it could help them understand.

I'm not an expert in any way shape or form but offering my advice for those who want it.

If you have any ways you would do it please drop a comment below, I'm not going to say my methods are perfect, but they worked on me. Hence i share what I know.

Paul

Shy Kids and a near daddy fail

Heya all

Yesterday was fun. Both Lissy and Vee have been waiting for today to come.

Why it's so special? The monsters had the morning with me in town, for a special purpose.
Meeting a certain builder minus his team or Wendy.

Yep, Bob the Builder was rocking the local Asda we discovered after a disastrous shopping day the week before (thieving gits be banks) The staff asked us about it and even got us a leaflet while we packed the bags. Top lady. 

We get there to see Bob, and my word the most excitable little lady becomes shy, getting upset in my arms. meaning I get to be photographed with bob too! He didn't offer me a job in Sunshine Valley though, boo.

As we leave little Lissy makes a scene, I twig that she wanted bob, as she had been quiet i thought she was shy too and left her in the buggy. OOPS Daddy forgot to get miss shyness out.

Once rectified we had a happy lump, running over to Bob for a hug.  

There will be more pictures soon. I have to scan them or photograph them (molome test 2) first. And maybe more too As i may be taking Vee to see him tomorrow too, she wants to show bob she's not shy this time.

Huge thanks to the Staff, Bob and his minder for giving us a few extra photos, and letting me sneak this one off my own camera (they offer free photos on the 1 hour collection service in store, those to be scanned)
It put a huge smile on the kids faces. and now the DVD's not leaving the player for quite a while.

Paul

P.S.Normal posting will resume soon. Have an issue to sort first.