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Showing posts with label advice. Show all posts
Showing posts with label advice. Show all posts

Thursday, 26 March 2015

The Big 5 Meme – Lessons from me to the smalls.

Big5Meme at Mummy from the Heart

Good evening

Over the last few weeks I've been thinking about the things I could teach the kids. Be it lessons, advice, or simple things to make life happier. While doing the best for them is my priority it's not always black and white, that would be too easy! Call it philosophical genius or sheer luck but the beautiful Michelle at Mummy from the heart has launched the Big 5 Meme with the subject being Life lessons you want your kids to learn, I was tagged by the lovely Anya from Older Single Mum.

We live in a confusing world, one that tells our youth at one point they have to do one thing to become good citizens of the principality and a few years later the goal posts change again giving them a set of some what unreachable goals in life.
If you then factor in the way the media is used to promote unhealthy body image, sexual suggestiveness with a hint of peer pressure on top of little gender equality and ever changing goals it's no wonder so many children are confused, depressed or plain unsure what's the best course of action for them to take in their lives.

1: You are beautiful, no matter what
We live in a world where beauty products skincare and other oddities are thrust upon young people telling them they are nothing without said clothes, phone, or makeup. After all they need you to make them money by tricking you to want these things. On that note your body is yours, there are many like it and none are perfect, some have wobbly bits, some have less wobbly bits, some have hair in places and some don't. No matter the type of body be yourself as you're beautiful no matter your sex, sexuality or abilities you are amazing!

2: Don't be afraid to speak out when something is wrong.
If something is wrong, please, PLEASE don't think it's stupid to tell me, it's far from stupid even if it's something you've caused. Telling us the problem and what we can do to help and we'll be there, even if it causes absolute chaos we're here for you. We promise you that.

3: Never stop believing in love.
This is input from the lovely lady - when you grow into teens and young adults you'll no doubt fall in love. Truth be told love is a certainty for most people, while I hope you don't get hurt it's bound to happen but it's no reason to give up on love me you'll not give up on love - it's not a fun place to be, trust me on that, keep a smile in your heart and it'll stay with you no matter what.

4: Understand money
Money can be an evil thing that can take over your life, while we all need money for essentials please please be careful as money services that seem friendly can make you lose control of your finances, with disastrous consequences if not sorted. I'm not the best with money I'll tell you now but I try my best to guide you where I can.

5: Education is important!
While it may seem fun and games now but It gets harder the longer you go through it. The time your in education got considerably longer last year (they upped the age to 18 - a good thing in my eyes.) to try and help everyone get somewhere in life. I believe in all three of you, no matter the outcome of your grades we'll stand by you and help and support you wherever we can

5a: Believe in you!
While this is a side comment I have to say this, many of these lessons all come down to believing in yourself. This alone is one of the most important thing you can ever do, to value yourself and believe in the things you do or say can fill you with pride or passion to stand up for what you deem important. It may not be easy all the time and you may doubt those beliefs at time but, like love don't discard those beliefs,

I tag the lovely Cookie Jar Life  and everyone else who wants to join in :)

Paul



Monday, 24 December 2012

Happy Christmas

Heya.

Christmas is coming and I'm off my head on my new painkillers.(hell yeah)

I want to wish you all a hugely happy christmas and wish you all a safe and happy new year.
From me, Lissy, Vee and Jessie have a great one.

Now for the serious bit of my post.

Have you seen your elderly or disabled neighbor recently? Go on, knock on the door and check they are OK. It may be silly but giving two moments of your time could mean the world to that person. And being able to do that for others makes me happy. and usually brings a warm feeling to those who do this.

For those who may not be coping too well for any reason. people will be there to help you. We have a huge community network called NotAlone 365, a twitter account to help being people together so nobody is alone all year. You will need a twitter account, but believe me. The community spirit of twitter is a powerful tool to make people smile, or feel better.
If you need to talk to someone but can't use twitter. The Samaritans are here too. you can call them on 08457 90 90 90* (in the UK) or on 1850 60 90 90* (in the ROI)

If you suffer a loss of a baby from early pregnancy to infant loss, Sands is here to help. Call them on the Sands National Helpline: 020 7436 5881
And for support with other parents. please drop @SayingGoodbyeUK a line on facebook or twitter I love the work Zoe and Andy are doing.  Parents's my previous offer of help or advice after a miscarriage is always there @hooker1uk on twitter for that ( may not be here as much right now as it is christmas and my phone broke this morning. I was an idiot. But do have twitter on my old nokia backup phone)
this emotional video says more about it than I can.


If things go bad between you and a partner over the holidays and there are children involved it may be hard but things can be fixed sometimes. If not I suggest dads contact OnlyDads and mums contact OnlyMums, fantastic charity groups who are there to help

Finally stay safe out there on the lash. I would hate to hear of anyone I care for being hurt.


Have a great christmas. and See you in 2013?

Paul

P.s. 2013 google hangout anyone?