However, his school has other ideas.
On discussing it with the school they have told me he can't do it.
I inquired more-so on why he can't do it. Especially as there is nothing in the uniform policy ans some staff are doing it this year, as they did last year. The response shocked me somewhat.
"He's not allowed to do movember as he's one of the only few able to do so."
I'm sorry but what the flip? I see this as bang out of order, bordering on discrimination.
I was not happy with the original response I received over the phone so I aimed to book an appointment to discus it with the school's deputy head who turned the idea down. As discussing things face to face for me means I think more rational and stay calmer in situations i'm not happy with.
So i ask my son to pass on a message to call me so we can arrange a face to face meeting.
They don't and the messages I receive from the boy are as follows
"shes not changing her mind. and is talking to other dep head." Followed by "Still saying no, because it makes me different" (it turns out other things were said, but the conversation will be left out)
This does wind me up a fair bit as all i wanted was to arrange to talk about it, not cause an argument between the boy and his school. But wither they decided to not respond to the original request to sit and sort this out properly.
I end up calling the school back, asking can I come in and discus it with them, explaining the reasoning of the no was not impressive to me. They promise to call back.
They do and I speak to the deputy head involved. Again the main request to sit and talk has been ignored. The discussion left me with the following to think about.
- My son will be treated differently if he grow's a mo. Ignore the uber deep voice he's had since age 11 or the fact he's been shaving since age 9
- They think it's inappropriate for a 13 year old to want to join in with a charity event in this manner. (i dread to think what they school's stance of balls of steel would be)
- Staff can do what they want with no chance of criticism or question by parents.
- They won't budge or talk in person about this.
All I wished to do at this point was to talk with them and sort this or an alternate idea out. Mainly as it's an event where both sexes can take part in different ways.
in the end my partner takes the phone as she can see I'm getting stressed. She speaks to them and then tells me she thinks they've handled it badly. I seriously agree with her on this.
After the original response. I took my frustrations to facebook Which in turn provided an amazing idea by the amazing b3tan, Dixon Balls. Who said "The school is so uncreative. Why not have the other kids who can't grow a mustache wear a fake mustache for a day and be sponsored for it? *facepalm* "
This to me is a fantastic idea, which the way things are going they won't listen. A beard-themed mufti day would have been awesome. everyone could have helped towards movember and would have given the school a huge amount of good press. Oh well They've said their piece on it.
Additionally Movember have said they will speak to the school on other appropriate ideas they could use for the event. And I sincerely hope they do.I hope the school do not see it as harassment on the issue as it not intended. More of a way to iron issues if they come to this situation again.
What are your thoughts on this?